Good Times and Tough Times on the Mission

We apologize that it has been several months since we shared this wonderful mission experience with each of you. In these last two months we have experienced a birth, death and serious illness of people we love. We also had six missionaries go home and five new missionaries arrive ready to serve.

One of our dear friends and fellow senior missionaries, Sister Debra Mae Thompson Robinson, discovered that she needed some surgery during her service and went back to America to have it done.  She had the surgery and was on her way to a full recovery.  A few weeks later she found out she had an accelerated form of spontaneous Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease and died on February 28th.

I wanted to pay tribute to her in my blog, as she and her husband Glenn touched our hearts forever.  Sister Robinson was an amazing person who spent her life in the service of others, and she always warmed the hearts of so many people with her smile.

During this same period one of our young valiant missionaries, Elder Hulka, came down with a severe case of pneumonia. We took him to the hospital here in Russia and they drained 3 liters of water from his lungs the first night and 2 more liters the next, but then found a large growth in his chest during the c-scan process. 
This was on Friday, February 27^th, so on Sunday, March 1^st I accompanied him back to the states where he could get the proper treatment for the growth. It was a 27-hour journey and he was a trooper the whole way. As soon as Elder Hulka and I landed, he was taken to the Huntsman Cancer Institute. They quickly started him on chemotherapy to treat the cancer that they found.  We pray he will have a full recovery.

I stayed in Utah that week to attend Sister Robinson's funeral and to be able to check up on Elder Hulka. On Wednesday I was able to see many of the returned missionaries from our mission as we attended the funeral and then later in the week met for ice cream. 

We are so thankful that we are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and have knowledge that life on earth is just a part of our journey.  Through the ordinances performed in the temple, Sister Robinson can live with our Father in Heaven, have her husband for eternity, and still be able to raise her family together when they are all in heaven.

Life is so short and we have so many choices. If you haven’t had a chance to learn about the gospel, let us know and we would be happy to have missionaries like us visit you anywhere in the world. We all want to be together forever both on this earth and in heaven.

On the other side of life’s journey, we had the birth of a new granddaughter at the end of January and I was able to spend some time with her. My daughter, Krista, gave birth to Hayley and she is absolutely beautiful. Krista and Taylor are so excited to have two little girls, and their oldest daughter, Mya, was a big help with her new sister. 

Mya is going to be 2 years old in April, so she is talking a lot (her own unique language, ha ha) and is full of smiles and laughs.  Needless to say she and Grandpa quickly became best friends, and she would yell, "Grandpa" and cry when I would leave to go somewhere. 

Clara is also very cute and smart! She is talking up a storm and already has a great grasp of the language!  She was so happy to see me and gave me a big hug and a kiss, even though she had only seen me on Skype for the past year. I also had the opportunity to take both granddaughters to a water park. Clara was so much fun and couldn’t get enough of the waterslides, lazy river and shooting water. I was able to go down the slides with Clara and Mya and that was a lot of fun. 

I have the two cutest granddaughters on the earth and they are only 4 months apart in age so it is a blast!  During the week I was able to spend precious time with them reading, playing and dancing. :)  

We are also expecting our first grandson, (fourth grandchild) on March 24^th.  My son, Brandon, and his wife, Alyse, are expecting their second child and we are sooooo excited for them. We left for our mission with two grandchildren and will come home with four.  This was a great time to reflect on the true circle of life, as I experienced birth, death, sickness and happiness.

My youngest son, Shawn, is still playing soccer and I was able to watch two of his games and then watch him beat me in tennis and golf. :)  I was able to play golf with Taylor, Brandon and Shawn.   There's nothing better than trying to compete with my three awesome sons!  One night we just grabbed some BBQ and played games at Brandon and Alyse’s house.  

My other daughter-in-law, Alise, opened a new hair and lash studio, and I was able to help her move in and hung up some draperies, etc. It was a truly awesome week, but I sure wish Kathy could have been there to share it with me. She stayed back at the mission office and had to complete both of our jobs. :)

My dog, Max, was so excited to see me when I got home.  I was worried that he wouldn't remember me.  Krista and I and the dogs were able to spend some time in the mountains hiking.  It was great to see the sun and the mountains!




We already have two wedding announcements from couples who all served in our Russia St. Petersburg Mission and we are so excited for both of them. One of the missionaries we served with, Kelby Gatrell, helped set up all the various events with the missionaries and it was awesome. I also got to see my old mission president and his wife and catch up on their return to real life. 

Brandon and I had a chance to get out fly-fishing on the Provo River.  Brandon caught three nice fish and all I got was a sunburn, a big smile and hopes for more time on the river when I return. :)  

The time here in St. Petersburg has been crazy and not much new to report except we are healthy, happy and serving the Lord with all our hearts. We thank each of you for staying in touch and keeping us in your hearts and prayers. 

We really haven’t been out of the office much except to teach with the missionaries, so I don’t have many new pictures of Russia. It is pretty cold and dark in the winter and we didn’t see the sun for the first 8 weeks we were back. This week we have had some sun and it has been awesome.

We will be home in a little less than three months and look forward to seeing each of you upon our return. Spend your days in the service of your family and others and you will find true happiness. Your job isn’t just a job, but an opportunity to share a journey with wonderful people while supporting your family financially. Take the time to meet those you work with and take an interest in their lives. Every person on this earth is a son or daughter of our Heavenly Father. If you are reading this blog, we have shared a journey and we thank you for your friendship.  

Love Bob and Kathy

                                                                       Krista, Mya and Grandpa Carter

                                                      My sister, Cindy, and her husband, Scott

                                                                   Alise and Shawn

Baby Hayley

                                                               Clara, Mya and Brandon

My brother, Ryan

                                                                                  Gotta love cousins!
                                                                           

More cousins!

                                                                                    Jungle Jim's Playland

Grandpa time

Welcome Home, Elder Carter!

We are being sent back

Words can’t express the love we have for the people in Kaliningrad, Russia and the amazing, wonderful and talented missionaries we have been blessed to serve with here.  

We got “the call” on Friday telling us that our time in Kaliningrad is up and we are once again needed in the office in St. Petersburg.  We loved St. Petersburg and will love it again, but there will always be a hole in our hearts where we left a piece with the members and missionaries in Kaliningrad.

Our journey in Kaliningrad started with contention, because the adversary knew that together we could make a difference in Kaliningrad.  We are so thankful to all the people that shared their smiles, best wishes and tears when saying goodbye on Sunday. мы любов наш член церкви и многие дружби 

Our first month was filled with difficulties with landlords, police, moving all three apartments, finding furniture for our new apartment, learning the language and a new city.  We always live by the phrase, “adversity brings greatness” and that has never been more true!

The next five months were filled with hard work, laughter and love as we truly became part of the church family in Kaliningrad.  Kathy couldn’t speak the language, but she spoke with her heart and so did all the other wonderful women in this wonderful branch of the church.  I was always willing to speak in Russian, but most of the time they just laughed because hey couldn't understand me.  

The language barrier never stopped our amazing relationships as they blossomed through church attendance each Sunday, service projects, ward talent shows, parties, and weekly dinners at our house with members and people we were teaching.  

It is amazing how when we work hard together, we become united in the cause and in the love of our heavenly father and his son Jesus Christ.

We really enjoyed the summer weather and hitting the streets with the missionaries.  Kathy and I had our own contacting goals so we started talking to people on the street.  We have also built many wonderful friendships with those not of our faith.  

We changed our English conversation group to an English gospel conversation group and the spirit just lit up the room.  As we learned the language and the gospel together it was amazing how we all felt the spirit each week.  One of our weekly participants said, “I can be having a bad day, but after I come on Friday, I always leave feeling better.” That is why we are here in Kaliningrad.  If we can all lift each other through our activities, we will grow together.

One constant throughout our time in Kaliningrad has been our service at the old forts.  Each week we would travel about 45 minutes to an old fort to do service.  We came to love the people who run the fort and looked forward to working with them each week.  

We would rake leaves, chop wood, move furniture, clean up old rooms, but most of all we would laugh and have fun working side by side.  At the end we would all be sweating and then sit down for a quick snack before we headed back.

I had the opportunity to use my priesthood and gave many blessings to the people of Kaliningrad and our missionaries. What an amazing opportunity to be an instrument in the hands of the Lord to help heal the sick or give comfort to those needing direction.  It was always an honor .

Kathy, lovingly known as Sister Carter here in Kaliningrad, bought and cooked pumpkins, chopped chocolate bars and then made pumpkin chocolate-chip bread for all the families within the church and many of the investigators. It was a true act of love because they don’t have canned pumpkin in Russia. All of the sisters loved “Sister Carter” because she always had a smile and helping hand to each of them. 

One of my fondest memories is standing there with all the missionaries and members waiting for people to come to church.  We would start 30 minutes before the meeting and give a big hug to everyone who came that day.  Sometimes the sister missionaries would get so excited when someone was walking up the steps and run out and give them a big hug.  Everyone felt welcome and we truly felt blessed to be a part of this.

Because of this love we saw many members who had stopped coming to church return.  Our weekly attendance increased and many families started to unite.  Each week in our branch council meetings we would discuss those we hadn’t seen for a while and assign someone to reach out to them.  At Christmas we did a group picture with the missionaries and gave it to all the members.  We delivered them to the people that rarely came to church so they knew they were loved.

The church parties were amazing as we laughed, played games and even danced to disco lights and music J.  Needless to say Kathy and I fit right into Kaliningrad.  These wonderful people know how to party, and everyone always brought their wonderful Russian food.  

Kathy would always make something special from our American recipes and they all loved it and would ask for the recipe.  We learned how to make borsch (Russian soup) when a couple of the sisters came over and gave us a lesson.

Most of all we had an amazing Christmas with our wonderful missionaries. We missed our family back in America, but the Lord gave us five wonderful missionaries as surrogate children to help ease the pain. 

We could never express in words the love we have for these missionaries and also those we served with that have gone home.  We have truly grown our family and will always have a place at our table, in our home and definitely in our hearts for each of these wonderful missionaries.  

They give up 18 months to two years to serve the Lord in the prime of their life.  They go about each day with a smile and commitment to search out and help the people in Russia.  In the process they find themselves and grow in ways that only come through the service of others.  Our Christmas in Russia was one we will never forget.  It was without presents or worldly activity, but filled with love and the true meaning of Christmas.

We love all the missionaries and look forward to seeing them again in St. Petersburg.  We also look forward to working with those that we loved back there and continuing our missionary efforts in the evenings in that beautiful city.  The Lord has blessed us with the mission I had to wait 31 years to serve.  

I am glad the Lord saved me for this time, because I couldn’t have served in Russia when I was 19, but I am sad I waited 31 years to experience this wonderful experience.  Every young man and woman who can should serve a mission and spend that time in the Lord’s university.  It isn’t easy, but well worth the journey.  The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is the Lord’s restored gospel on the earth today.  We all chose to come to this earth and accepted the worldly challenges so we could grow. 

We promised we would find each other and help each other return to our heavenly father.  Kathy and I promised the people who were sent by the Lord to live in Russia that we would come and find them before we came to earth, and the Lord allowed us this wonderful opportunity.  

He also gave us technology so we could share this wonderful journey with you.  If you aren’t already a member of this church, take the time to invite some of these wonderful missionaries over to your house.  These are the same wonderful people we have described in our blog. 

You can request a missionary visit at the following link http://www.mormon.org/missionaries 

The missionaries will bless your lives and share an important message with you. Then you can pray to know if it is true and it will change your lives forever.  We send our love and ask that you keep us in your prayers as we start our last five months in St. Petersburg. Love the Carters